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Everyone who hears the story of finding true love tells us it gives them hope. They tell us we need to tell more people our story, people who might think it’s too late to find love. That’s why I created this website, started a blog, and wrote Becoming Mrs. Stanley. For many years, I wanted it, but I didn’t really believe it was possible. Now, I want every single person out there looking for a long-term relationship to know that you CAN find true love! Amazing, wonderful, kind, caring, compassionate, successful, single people of all ages DO EXIST, and I believe everyone can find love again.

When Amazon’s #1 mate seeking, new release author, Karen Stanley set out to share her personal story and advice with others in Becoming Mrs. Stanley, her hope was they’d find the same success she did. Little did she know, it would turn into a global conversation with fans around the world. 

I’m an entrepreneur, former single mom, professional Mezzo-Soprano, yogi, hiker, Amazon addict, laugh-way-too-loud-er, and I’ve spent over 2 decades in marketing. For many years, I attracted men (teachers) who didn’t want what I wanted. I knew intellectually that if you want to find true love, you needed to become the person you wanted to be, but I had a hard time staying on track. So I created systems to help me do just that. When I realized that some of the methods I used to helped me and finally attract Mr. Right were strategies, I started writing my book, Becoming Mrs. Stanley, and now I’m a published author!

Even though being a single mom raising two children was challenging, I cherish every moment of those years when it was just the three of us. I had almost given up on finding true love, and for two years I didn’t date and had no interest in finding love again. I worked hard and spent time with my little buddies. During that time, we went on many fun road trips visiting sisters and cousins and created great memories we’ll never forget! Here’s my three-pack in 2010 at Yellowstone National Park.

Even though being a single mom raising two children was challenging, I cherish every moment of those years when it was just the three of us. I had almost given up on manifesting my soulmate, and for two years I didn’t date and had no interest in finding love again. I worked hard and spent time with my little buddies. During that time, we went on many fun road trips visiting sisters and cousins and created great memories we’ll never forget! Here’s my three-pack in 2010 at Yellowstone National Park.

Jenny married the man of her dreams on July 13, 2013, in beautiful Montana. This was a defining moment in my life because I had a real love revelation. She was a single mom, and she was able to find true love again after divorce, so it’s possible for everyone – even me.

The groom’s father gave a toast and said, “You think you love her now, just wait 47 years and you will love her more than you could ever imagine.” The groom’s parents have been married since 1966, and they are still truly, madly deeply in love! At that moment I knew that finding true love was possible, and it was all I needed to get focused and find ways to become the person I wanted to attract.

The first step I took was making a list of everything I wanted to do to help me feel good about myself. I call it My BOSS List. Then, I wrote My Soulmate List of everything I wanted in a husband in the notes in my phone. Then I got busy!

My last first date was December 7, 2014. The last entry into my Soulmate list was proximity. I wrote My soulmate lives within 20 minutes of me. John sent me his address that morning and his house was exactly 20 minutes from mine. I’m not making this up. This is not a great picture, but it’s the only one we have of our actual first date! I was too nervous to snap great selfies! One of his friends texted him during the game asking how it was going, and he sent him this picture. His friend responded, “You’re done.”

Two days later, he told the cab driver he was going to marry me in Maui.

And that he did, my friends. That he did.

I help singles (that means you!) find true love and find the reasons to find love again within themselves. What I practiced and what I focused on between the wedding (July 13, 2013) and my last first date (December 7, 2014) is a strategy! If you want to find love after divorce and attract Mr. Right, you need a strategy to believe it’s possible for you, and a strategy for becoming the person you want to BE. That is what attracts the person you’ve always wanted to be WITH. If I attracted a wonderful husband using these strategies, then you can find love, too!

The BEST Day: February 5, 2016. I married my soul mate on the beach in Maui.  If I finally attracted Mr. Right using these strategies, while raising two kids alone, then you can find love, too! Read all about it in my book, and make sure to subscribe to my email list so you don’t miss out on any tips, inspiration, a little hope, and a lotta love!

What it...we just vote ✅ ⠀
Focus on what we CAN control ✅⠀
Create the life we really want no matter who wins ✅⠀
Focus on strengthening our relationships ✅⠀
Focus on improving ourselves mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally to prepare for any outcome, any situation, any circumstance. 💪⠀
Every day. ⠀
Every day. ⠀
Every day.⠀

Love each other every day. ⠀
Every day. 💕⠀
Every day. 💕⠀

What if...⠀



#createtoday #becomingmrsstanley #soulmatesaturday #sanctuarysaturday #createlovetoday #relationshipgoals #myloveplaylist #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #truelovestory #selflove #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #lovedeeply #iamarete #aretesyndicate
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I feel like faith and prayer is our spiritual armor for all the shit that comes at us every day. 🙏⁠

I didn't always feel that way.⁠

My spiritual journey has certainly been a rollercoaster. I've been on ALL sides of the spectrum—from 100% psychopath devout Christian who wouldn't even say "S*H*I*T" when my friends begged me to...to hating religion, hating scriptures and not even believing God was real in my 20s. I wanted absolutely nothing to do with ANY OF IT. ⁠

But I feel like God was right there beside me the entire time, waiting patiently, guiding me every step of the way, and when I *believed* that He was, everything changed.⁠

I feel better when I pray. I love the idea of putting on my spiritual armor. I feel like it's OK not to know WTF is going on sometimes. I feel like its OK to not have anything figured out. We're not suppose to have everything figured out. God/Universe/Creative Source/Spirit...whatever resonates with you...helps me feel like we're not alone. Put it in His hands. He has already figured it out. He has a plan when we feel insanity. He has already chosen the perfect mate for you. He's waiting on you to work on yourself and *believe* you deserve superman or super woman so He can send them your way. When I finally believed that and said "Thank you God for sending me my soulmate" 197 thousand times a day, it happened.⁠

This week's blog post is some thoughts on cultivating a better relationship with God. 🙏⁠

Link in my bio! 💕💕
...

What if our kindness could flood the world? ⁠
What if we ARE actually that powerful? ⁠
Together using our kindness super powers to flood the world and get rid of fear and hate?⁠

COULD WE DO THAT????? ⁠

I think yes. You may think me a lunatic.⁠

When you're kind to yourself, you change from the inside out and become a magnet for love, friendship, connection...all the goods. 💕 It ALL starts within.⁠ Then others become more kind? What say ye?⁠

Quotes are the bomb.com I have a quote every day written in my Create Love Today Journal and Daily Planner. #linkinbio⁠

What small, quantifiable goal can you make today to be kinder to yourself? 🤗
...

I don’t meditate.⁠
I struggle with actually meditating. And that’s probably why I need to do it. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I clear my mind and calm myself when I’m on a mountain. Out in nature. “Kind of” meditating while I’m in motion....and that’s what I prefer— ⁠

*BUT*⁠

I know that meditation is an awesome practice…⁠

Do any of you have a daily meditation practice? for how long? Any tips for beginners???
...

Our first date was one 🎵"hands down, one of the best nights"🎵 of my life. (actually it was all day and most of the night. We sent John's coworker this selfie, and he replied with two words: "you're done." ⁠

We left the game early but didn't want the night to stop. We ordered dinner, had a glass of wine and talked and talked and talked. I didn't want to leave. 🎵"Between the bottle of wine and the look in [our] eyes,"🎵 we both knew we were goners. ⁠

Ladies, this is real!! I married a man I had known and worked with for six years before he even saw me. I didn't even cross his mind until I'd transformed my beliefs and changed my focus to loving myself and relentlessly improving the areas of my life I wanted to improve. You don’t find love. You work on yourself and love finds you! ❤️❤️❤️⁠

"Die A Happy Man" by @thomasrhettakins brings me back to my Texas roots, and reminds me of my last first date. It’s the latest addition to My Love Playlist! Listen to the full playlist on Spotify today! #LinkInBio
...

Then there was the “I’m-separated-but-I’m gonna-leave-off-the-part-where-I-don’t-wanna be” guy. 🙈🙈🙈 That was awesome. After my separation, I went out dancing and met a teacher *also* going through a divorce, (like always attracts like) I *thought* we hit it off...

When we had to go, he gave me *his* phone number. Red flag much 🚩

I called (don’t ever do that) and he stammered and stuttered a bit before spitting it out: “I had a great time, but I’m really trying to work it out with my wife,” he says. Perfect. 🤦‍♀️

Every date is a teacher!!! Especially the dating disasters! I added to my soulmate list: “My soulmate is honest. My soulmate only wants me and will do anything to be with me. My soul mate reminds me to lighten up and we have so. much. fun. together." And John is honest, John does only want me, John will do anything for me, and we have so much fun together. #facts

What’s the greatest lesson you’ve learned from a date/teacher?

#lessonlearned #datingdisasters #worthit
...

What it...we just vote ✅ ⠀
Focus on what we CAN control ✅⠀
Create the life we really want no matter who wins ✅⠀
Focus on strengthening our relationships ✅⠀
Focus on improving ourselves mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally to prepare for any outcome, any situation, any circumstance. 💪⠀
Every day. ⠀
Every day. ⠀
Every day.⠀

Love each other every day. ⠀
Every day. 💕⠀
Every day. 💕⠀

What if...⠀



#createtoday #becomingmrsstanley #soulmatesaturday #sanctuarysaturday #createlovetoday #relationshipgoals #myloveplaylist #truelove #mrskarenstanley #reallove #twinflames #twinflame #bosslist #soulmate #truelovestory #selflove #love #marriage #selfcare #loveyourself #motivation #mindfulness #wellness #inspiration #happiness #happy #singlemom #lovedeeply #iamarete #aretesyndicate
...

I feel like faith and prayer is our spiritual armor for all the shit that comes at us every day. 🙏⁠

I didn't always feel that way.⁠

My spiritual journey has certainly been a rollercoaster. I've been on ALL sides of the spectrum—from 100% psychopath devout Christian who wouldn't even say "S*H*I*T" when my friends begged me to...to hating religion, hating scriptures and not even believing God was real in my 20s. I wanted absolutely nothing to do with ANY OF IT. ⁠

But I feel like God was right there beside me the entire time, waiting patiently, guiding me every step of the way, and when I *believed* that He was, everything changed.⁠

I feel better when I pray. I love the idea of putting on my spiritual armor. I feel like it's OK not to know WTF is going on sometimes. I feel like its OK to not have anything figured out. We're not suppose to have everything figured out. God/Universe/Creative Source/Spirit...whatever resonates with you...helps me feel like we're not alone. Put it in His hands. He has already figured it out. He has a plan when we feel insanity. He has already chosen the perfect mate for you. He's waiting on you to work on yourself and *believe* you deserve superman or super woman so He can send them your way. When I finally believed that and said "Thank you God for sending me my soulmate" 197 thousand times a day, it happened.⁠

This week's blog post is some thoughts on cultivating a better relationship with God. 🙏⁠

Link in my bio! 💕💕
...

What if our kindness could flood the world? ⁠
What if we ARE actually that powerful? ⁠
Together using our kindness super powers to flood the world and get rid of fear and hate?⁠

COULD WE DO THAT????? ⁠

I think yes. You may think me a lunatic.⁠

When you're kind to yourself, you change from the inside out and become a magnet for love, friendship, connection...all the goods. 💕 It ALL starts within.⁠ Then others become more kind? What say ye?⁠

Quotes are the bomb.com I have a quote every day written in my Create Love Today Journal and Daily Planner. #linkinbio⁠

What small, quantifiable goal can you make today to be kinder to yourself? 🤗
...

I don’t meditate.⁠
I struggle with actually meditating. And that’s probably why I need to do it. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I clear my mind and calm myself when I’m on a mountain. Out in nature. “Kind of” meditating while I’m in motion....and that’s what I prefer— ⁠

*BUT*⁠

I know that meditation is an awesome practice…⁠

Do any of you have a daily meditation practice? for how long? Any tips for beginners???
...

Our first date was one 🎵"hands down, one of the best nights"🎵 of my life. (actually it was all day and most of the night. We sent John's coworker this selfie, and he replied with two words: "you're done." ⁠

We left the game early but didn't want the night to stop. We ordered dinner, had a glass of wine and talked and talked and talked. I didn't want to leave. 🎵"Between the bottle of wine and the look in [our] eyes,"🎵 we both knew we were goners. ⁠

Ladies, this is real!! I married a man I had known and worked with for six years before he even saw me. I didn't even cross his mind until I'd transformed my beliefs and changed my focus to loving myself and relentlessly improving the areas of my life I wanted to improve. You don’t find love. You work on yourself and love finds you! ❤️❤️❤️⁠

"Die A Happy Man" by @thomasrhettakins brings me back to my Texas roots, and reminds me of my last first date. It’s the latest addition to My Love Playlist! Listen to the full playlist on Spotify today! #LinkInBio
...

Then there was the “I’m-separated-but-I’m gonna-leave-off-the-part-where-I-don’t-wanna be” guy. 🙈🙈🙈 That was awesome. After my separation, I went out dancing and met a teacher *also* going through a divorce, (like always attracts like) I *thought* we hit it off...

When we had to go, he gave me *his* phone number. Red flag much 🚩

I called (don’t ever do that) and he stammered and stuttered a bit before spitting it out: “I had a great time, but I’m really trying to work it out with my wife,” he says. Perfect. 🤦‍♀️

Every date is a teacher!!! Especially the dating disasters! I added to my soulmate list: “My soulmate is honest. My soulmate only wants me and will do anything to be with me. My soul mate reminds me to lighten up and we have so. much. fun. together." And John is honest, John does only want me, John will do anything for me, and we have so much fun together. #facts

What’s the greatest lesson you’ve learned from a date/teacher?

#lessonlearned #datingdisasters #worthit
...