Did you know I used to play the cello? Well, the only reason why I could play the cello is because I got out the instrument and practiced every day for years. (OK let’s be real…it wasn’t every day. I was a kid!) And you want to know why I can’t play the cello anymore? I stopped practicing. Once we learn something, we can’t stop practicing it, or we will lose the skill. It’s the same with calming our feelings of stress or anxiety. This year has been completely nuts, to say the least! I get overwhelmed sometimes, and I feel a little anxious sometimes, and I was thinking maybe you mamas feel the same. I think it’s more important than ever to find more ways to love. It’s more important than ever to show compassion, especially to ourselves and to those who don’t agree with us. When I see something on social media that makes me angry, I remind myself that what I really need to be doing is asking myself how I can show more compassion to everyone in my life. If you have a loved one that needs money, how could help them if you don’t have money? Same with love. Love and compassion starts with loving yourself. We need to BE the person we need. I have to practice refocusing all the time, and I have strategies that help me re-center, return to being calm, and get on with my day, and I wanted to share them with you. Everything is a practice. If you feel stressed, practice a couple of these and see what happens! And if you want to learn to play an instrument, I can’t help you because I’m terrible now. 🙂 Here’s 6 simple says to reduce stress.
1. Take Small Breaks
Set aside time to take short breaks away from your responsibilities. Powerhousing through everything on your to-do list isn’t healthy or helpful. That’s just how we get burned out. I keep my yoga mat by my desk! Whenever I feel overwhelmed, or if I haven’t come up for air in a while, I pull it out for two quick minutes to stretch and reset. Other things I do that you might want to try are walk outside for a minute. Get some vitamin D. Take a quick walk around the block. Closing your eyes for one minute and just breathe. Find a quick meditation. I have a morning ritual that I do every morning that includes writing what I am grateful for every day and wins from yesterday. This allows me to focus on all of the amazing things that are going RIGHT in my world. I stop focusing on things that aren’t going so right or things that I’m struggling with. We can work on those more easily if we take a small break and think of something we are grateful for, and celebrate your wins, any win! Taking a break is a WIN! It changes your state of mind and then you can get back to what you need to do with more ease and happiness.
2. Slow. Your. Breathing.
Keeping an eye out on your breathing is SO important! Be aware. When you feel tense, what is your breathing like? When you’re anxious, we tend to take quick, shallow breaths. Take a moment to do a few big, deep breaths. Other techniques can help as well, but even as few as four deep breaths can help calm your heart, mind, and body. It forces you to focus on the present. Your body. You have been given another day! Get some air into those lungs and give your beautiful body the gift of more oxygen. It only takes a second.
3. Treat Yourself to Some Tea
Put on a spot a tea like the Brits! I love Brits! I’m obsessed with tea. I love it. I drink it all day. Tea has been a tradition for centuries for a reason—it’s just dried herbs with boiling water poured over it. Herbs that have been used forever to heal bodies and minds! Tea is literally an herbal remedy. Different herbs help you with different things. Chamomile is an herb that helps you calm down. I have a hundred kinds, but I think chamomile and peppermint are my favorite. Just do a taste test and find which ones taste best to you! It does take a minute to prepare, and I think that’s one of the reasons why it’s a great stress reliever. Take a minute. Seems like there might be a theme here…
4. Practice Redirecting Your Mind
Our minds are just like toddlers and they need redirecting. When you are stressed, you think that everything has to be done all at once. It doesn’t! And if we practice redirecting our crazy minds toddler minds, we focus on the one thing that needs to be done at that moment. Maybe in that one moment what needs to be done is a 5-minute stretch. Once we redirect to the one task that needs to get done we do it, we feel accomplished and we might even smile! Then we can work toward the next win and then the next win. We’re only capable of doing a single task at a time, so just practice focusing on that one thing, then move along to the next thing. You’re on a winning streak!
5. Only Listen to What Empowers You
When I was on my mission to attract my soulmate, I was obsessed with the song “Bitter Sweet Symphony” by The Verve. But one day I realized what the song was actually about from this lyric: “you’re a slave to the money then you die.” Oh no we are not! Whether I knew it or not, my subconscious had been buying into that for days. From that moment forward I promised myself that I would not listen to anything negative—not a song, show, speaker, or anything else! My Love Playlist would:
- Be uplifting
- Talk about what I wanted to create (love) instead of what I didn’t have
- Only include songs that made me feel good
Tony Robbins was right when he said: “If you don’t control your environment, your environment will control you.” Filling your environment with empowering media is a major key to success in attracting your soulmate and reducing stress. Put on podcasts or youtube videos of someone you admire (my personal favorites are Mel Robbins, Brendon Burchard, and Ed Mylett). Only read books that uplift you. Go through your music library and trash anything that doesn’t make you feel great. No exceptions! And do not watch the news!
6. Be Kind to the Girl in the Mirror
An alternative way to reduce stress in multiple stages of life is by learning to love yourself. Stress can stem from worrying about something that won’t happen because of your flaws or feeling like you’re not good enough because of a myriad of reasons. Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can. Find a way to look in the mirror each morning with love in your eyes for the girl in front of you.
When you’re stressed out, how can you be kind? Would you say those harsh words you speak about yourself to your best friend? What’s one thing that you would say to your best friend if they were having a hard day? You’re doing great. I love you. I’m here for you. What can I do for you? Then put your name on it and say it to yourself. Be the friend you need. You don’t need to be saved. No one is going to save you. You need moments to yourself. You need to practice loving that body that was gifted to you. Your body is a gift, You need to take care of mom so mom can give the very best care to her kids. They are watching and learning from you!
Taking proactive steps to reduce stress is your life is an excellent step on the road to finding your soul mate. When you’re the calm, stress-free best version of yourself, you will attract someone amazing too. I hope these ideas can help you get there!