The other day I was talking to my long-time friends, Meg, one of my dearest friends and closest confidants, and I told her about my social media plan. One part of my plan was posting weekly Love Playlist posts. She looked up at me with a blank expression and said, “WTF is a love playlist?”
I laughed out loud.
Oh, so when I talk, I sound like a crazy person! Good to know! It didn’t dawn on me that people would have no clue what a love playlist was.
So I thought I would tell the story!
After I went to my best friends wedding and had a revelation that I can’t attract a badass husband unless I believed it was possible and I felt like a badass myself, I returned home and started on my mission to stay focused on becoming the person I wanted to be so that I could manifest my soul mate. I was consistently practicing all of the strategies in my book Becoming Mrs. Stanley, such as: morning rituals, practicing self-care, and doing what I loved. The thing that I love is hiking. During the beautiful weather months in Arizona, I’d drop off the kids at school and drive to a mountain a half hour away to hike 2-3 times a week. Most of the time I was alone, but I went with my sister Kristen a bunch, too. When I was alone, I’d pop in my headphones and blast all my favorite tunes.
One day, the song “Bitter Sweet Symphony” came on. Great tune. I love the melody. I love that song! Then, I listened closer to the lyrics:
Cause it’s a bittersweet symphony this life
Trying to make ends meet, you’re a slave to the money then you die.
I’ll take you down the only road I’ve ever been down
You know the one that takes you to the places where all the veins meet, yeah.
No change, I can’t change, I can’t change, I can’t change
And I thought, wait a second… Did he just say “We’re a slave to money and then we die?”
That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.
Why am I listening to a song that puts that bullsh*t in my ears and in my mind? I won’t have it. I don’t believe we can’t change. I don’t believe this life is a bittersweet symphony were we’re a slave to money. That’s stupid. And I don’t want to listen to someone who is negative. Period. Have you ever heard of muscle testing?
Your body actually knows when something is good for you, and it knows when something is bad for you. Did you know that?
I went to a seminar in ’08 and he put substances inside envelopes and got people from the audience to come up and hold each one. Then he pushed on their arm to see if they could hold them up or not.
When he pushed on a person’s arm and they couldn’t hold strong, the substance was bad. One of them was saccharine. I can’t remember what the others were, but my mind was blown! Your body knows! Then he proceeded to show us the same goes for music. He held up individual CDs and if the person’s muscles weakened, the CD contained music that was negative.
I didn’t think too much about it until that song Bittersweet Symphony came on when I was hiking. I really wish that they would come up with better lyrics and release it again, because it’s an awesome song otherwise. However, I didn’t want anything negative in my life that could potentially knock me off my game! I wanted to manifest an awesome husband.
Everything that you consume, whether its your music, your books, TV shows, especially your social media feed, matters!
Everything we consume has an effect on us either positively or negatively, even if we are not aware of it. Your environment matters even more than we realize it. When I was around women who complained and bitched and moaned about their ex-husbands, guess what I did? I bitched and moaned about my ex-husband. I cried in my beer. felt worse and worse and worse. And I realized that I don’t want to listen to anything that has anything negative to say or that doesn’t have a vibe that I want in the world that I want to create or the love I want to create. Music included.
So I decided to make a love playlist on my phone. The criteria for making that list was it had to be positive, it had to be about the love that was possible, the love that I wanted, or the kind of love that I wanted to create. Some of them were slow love songs, and those are good, too, for some certain you-know-what moments. But if slow songs make you depressed, then those are not good songs to listen to. If a song makes you think of an ex-boyfriend or your ex-husband that’s not a good song to listen to.
I would just be really careful and start becoming aware of how you feel when a song is playing.
And then change it if it’s not how you want to feel. You want to be uplifted and inspired! I want songs that make me feel like I’m on top of the worked and my husband was on his way!!!! I wanted to be motivated to go faster and keep putting one step in front of the other. I listened to songs with lyrics like:
You wanna show the world, but no one knows your name yet
You wonder when and where and how you’re gonna make it
You know you can if you get the chance
In your face as the door keeps slamming
Now you’re feeling more and more frustrated
And you’re getting all kind of impatient, waiting
We live and we learn to take
One step at a time
There’s no need to rush
It’s like learning to fly
Or falling in love
It’s gonna happen and it’s
Supposed to happen that we
Find the reasons why
One step at a time
One Step at a Time by Jordan Sparks
Or like this:
Do it now
You know you are
You feel it in your heart
And your burning and wishin’
At 1st wait, it won’t be on a plate
Your gonna work for it harder and harder
And I know cause I’ve been there before
Knockin’ on door with rejection (rejection)
And you’ll see cause if its meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
It’s amazing, it’s amazing all that you can do
It’s amazing it makes my heart sing
Now its up to you
Patience now frustration in the air
And people who don’t care
Well its gonna get you down
And you’ll fall (fall)
Yes you will hit a wall
Get back up on your feet
And you’ll be stronger and smarter
And I know I’ve been there before
Knockin’ on door wont take no for an answer
And you’ll see cause if it’s meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
Oh hell yeah! “It’s Amazing” by Jem (is that the same Jem from the 80’s? IDK)
All I know is that
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream!
Now we’re talkin’!
Those lyrics are so powerful, and that song makes me want to do a little happy dance! Those are the criterion for making the cut for My Love Playlist!
I listened to My Love Playlist exclusively, and I believe it’s a strategy. One of the secrets to believing that finding true love is possible is to declare a “no-negativity zone” with everything. Creating a love playlist and listen to nothing but positive happy music is a strategy for manifesting your soulmate!
Now, I keep adding to it, and I put the whole playlist on Spotify so you can listen or download it I post a new playlist post here every week because I keep adding to my list. Lots of really inspiring music and songs that create happiness! So many songs are about true love. If it’s possible for the person who wrote that song to feel that amazing about another human being and be so in love, then it’s possible for me. And if it’s possible for me, it’s possible for you, right? So that’s the love playlist. Hope you check it out. Follow along with it. Please add to it. I’m always looking for great songs, and people keep giving me suggestions. I hope you like it. I hope you listen to things that make you feel good, and you stop following and listening to anything that makes you feel bad because that really helps me!